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04/26/2002 Entry: "4/26 Relationship"

Shawn and I have had quite a few long talks over the last few days. I do believe we have covered all our concerns. We are going to work this out. Both of us have some changes we are going to try and make. We do love each other and have such a wonderful relationship in all other ways, that is would seem silly that these differences we have could cause us to question our relationship.

I don't need to go into details because it's not that big of a deal. But I can say Shawn is the complete opposite of me in personality and in some of his interests. He is very laid back, always happy, very funny, loves to be the center of attention and thrives in a crowded room, loves the outdoors, very active in sports and anything outside. Then you have me. I am more of a loner and do better in small groups of people, I am not that quiet but somewhat reserved. I do not like to be in a crowded room and would prefer to stay in the corner or sit quietly so I'm not noticed. I am a worry wart and worry about too much too often. I would rather sit in the house on my pc or making candles etc. rather than outside doing anything. I'm sure you can see the problem here. On a positive note, Shawn's easy going nature does rub off on me sometimes. We laugh and giggle and act crazy like 2 kids often!

So I am going to make an effort to try some activities that I know Shawn enjoys. Actually, I did try quite a few things last Summer. He got me out golfing and playing tennis, both of which I enjoyed. It's so important to Shawn that we do something (anything) physical together. So I will try to be more active this year so we can spend time together. My alternative is to sit home along while Shawn goes and does his own thing, which would not work with us. Shawn on the other hand is going to be more understanding about me not liking certain things so we'll try to come up with things we can do that we will both enjoy.

Our differences do go deeper than I'm able to convey here, but the main thing is we are working on them. I just really need to learn to lighten up. I know it in my head, but my heart tells me different. It's so hard for me to let things roll off my shoulders, but I will try harder. Well, I know I'm not wording this very well so I'll quit for now and write more later.

P.S. That is another thing I'm working on. When Shawn and I have our talks, I have a hard time expressing what I'm trying to say and it usually comes out wrong and makes things worse. I need to really guard my tongue. :)

Replies: 2 comments

I completely understand where you are coming from. My husband and I don't have the exact same issues but I am very similar in personality as you described of yourself. Unfortunately Aaron is even worse than me. LOL

Jill has spoken @ 04/26/2002 11:50 AM CST

Yes Leah, I have a lot of the same personality traits that you have. I have also been working on expressing myself better,not worrying about everything and so forth. The fact you and Shawn are talking about it and trying to work things out says a lot about your relationship, you both want things to work out, that's a great start and I know you can and will.
I wish you luck and happiness.
Take care hon.

Dana Lea has spoken @ 04/28/2002 07:39 AM CST

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